Bringing up a narcissist, Growing up in a yes men shell

              Bringing up a narcissist, Growing up in a yes men shell

Throughout my life I have observed folks in American society looking to achieve what many call their American Dream; there is a falsehood and misconceptions about this dream but for me is just defined as acquiring excessive wealth. They dream and aspire to provide for their children things they were never given. As I research their behavior is easy to see, they want to create privilege for themselves and their children through the false pretense of a higher social status which is based on the amount of wealth they have accumulated. A higher spiritual status is what Jesus wants us to achieve.

What is the result of bringing up a child in an environment where he is never shown that he made a mistake, where he is never denied any item or things he desires, essentially being brought up surrounded by what we call yes men? Raising a child in an environment where they are never denied anything they desire, surrounded by "yes men," will lead to several negative consequences and most likely a major or minor narcissistic personality. 

“Be not deceive, the love of Money is the root of all evil.”

Negative Behaviors Resulting from an Environment of No Denial, money worshiping and Yes Men:

1. Entitlement: The child will develop a sense of entitlement, believing they deserve everything they desire without having to earn it or consider others' needs.

2. Lack of Resilience: Without experiencing disappointment or having to overcome challenges, the child will lack resilience and struggle to cope with setbacks later in life.

3. Poor Decision-Making Skills: Constantly having desires fulfilled without critical evaluation or negotiation will hinder the development of decision-making skills and the ability to prioritize needs.

4. Difficulty with Authority: The child will struggle to respect authority figures outside of his inner circle, or accept boundaries, as they are accustomed to having their wishes instantly gratified.

5. Shallow Relationships: Growing up surrounded by "yes men" will prevent the child from developing authentic relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

6. Limited Empathy: Lack of exposure to denial and negotiation will hinder the child's ability to empathize with others' perspectives or understand the importance of compromise.

7. Financial Irresponsibility: There's a risk that the child will grow up with poor financial habits, such as overspending or an inability to manage money effectively, as they are used to having all desires fulfilled without consideration of cost.

8. Social Isolation: Over time, the child will find it challenging to integrate into social settings where they are not catered to, or where their desires are not immediately met, leading to outer and inner to social isolation.

9. . Difficulty Handling Criticism: Criticism or feedback that challenges their sense of superiority may be met with defensiveness, anger, or dismissal, as they are used to being unquestioned and praised.

By fostering a balanced approach to desires and teaching important life skills, parents and caregivers will help children develop into responsible, empathetic individuals who are capable of navigating a diverse and challenging world. Being brought up in an environment where a child is never denied anything they desire and surrounded by "yes men" will indeed contribute to the development of narcissistic tendencies.

 Narcissism is characterized by a grandiose sense of self-importance, a lack of empathy for others, a need for excessive admiration, and a sense of entitlement. Here’s how being raised in such an environment can lead to narcissistic behaviors and the outward signs that may be exhibited:

What are additional outward signs of Narcissism malevolent behaviors.

1. Seeking Constant Approval and Validation: Due to a history of being surrounded by "yes men," they may constantly seek admiration and validation from others to reinforce their self-worth.

2. Exploitative Relationships: They may have relationships that are characterized by exploitation, using others to fulfill their own needs without reciprocation or consideration

3. Superiority Complex: They may exhibit a belief that they are inherently better than others, leading to behaviors that demonstrate arrogance or condescension.

4. Difficulty in Team Settings: Collaborative environments may be challenging for them, as they may struggle with sharing credit or acknowledging others’ contributions.

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Outward Signs of Narcissism:

Grandiosity: They may frequently talk about their achievements, talents, or superiority compared to others.

Lack of Empathy: They may appear indifferent to or dismissive of others’ emotions or struggles.

Need for Admiration: They constantly seek attention, admiration, or praise from others.

A false Sense of Entitlement: They expect special treatment or privileges without considering the perspectives or needs of others.

Manipulative Behavior: They will use charm or manipulation to get what they want from others.

Difficulty Accepting Criticism: They react negatively to criticism, viewing it as a personal attack rather than constructive feedback.

                How Jesus Christ and psychology mitigate the effect of Narcissism.

Mitigating Narcissistic Behaviors:

     “Spare the rod and spoil the child” Solomon

I ask all to think of psychic rod not so much the physical one. To mitigate the development of narcissistic behaviors in individuals raised in such environments, it’s crucial to: Encourage Empathy: Teach empathy and perspective-taking skills from an early age, emphasizing the importance of considering others’ feelings and needs.

Set Boundaries and Limits: Establish clear boundaries and limits on behavior, teaching the importance of respect for others and shared responsibility.

Encourage Accountability: Hold the individual accountable for their actions and decisions, promoting a sense of responsibility and consequences.

Model Humility and Respect: Model humility, respect for others, and the ability to accept feedback and learn from mistakes.

Promote Balanced Feedback: Provide constructive criticism and feedback alongside praise, teaching the individual to value growth and improvement.

           How would you rate yourself in the following categories?

    Let’s talk about inherent evil. When parents fail to teach their children the following traits, morals principles and values they are promoting inherent evil. By promoting a balanced approach to desires and imparting essential life skills, parents, educators, and caregivers assist children in developing into responsible, empathetic individuals capable of navigating a diverse and challenging world. Indeed, being raised in an environment where every desire is fulfilled, and corruption and false history is idolized, without question and surrounded by "yes men" contributes to the development of narcissistic tendencies.